Engagement party is over....now the planning begins...or does it???

The engagement party was an amazing success and I wouldn't have changed a thing, except wish that it was longer! Everyone had an amazing time, especially myself and my fiance and we now have wonderful memories and made us look forward to the wedding. That was May...it's now September and you guessed it I'm still unemployed and unable to plan a thing for my wedding! Now we are left trying to decided if we put the wedding on hold until we can afford something close to our dream wedding or just take a ride to city hall! He's very against city hall and is determined on a big family wedding but I guess I just want to be his wife and I don't know if the big wedding matters so much anymore. Don't get me wrong I think it would be great to have everyone we know and love present when we say our vows but is it worth the cost? The more an more I think about it the more I question why spend all that money on one day rather than a down payment on a house? We can agree on one thing..the date, rain or shine we will be married on November 5, 2011, aka our 3 year anniversary! I guess we'll just have to wait and see where this journey takes us.